Hey everyone!! Sorry it has been a while between posts. I had a lot of great parties in Poughkeepsie, Hyde Park, and Highland NY causing me to over looked posting a new blog!! Please feel free at anytime to write to me about a topic you would like me to discuss, research or address here. I would love to do a sex toy review post soon. Any of you who have toys that I sell please send me your review of them so it is not just my own reviews! Do not forget to look me up on Myspace, Face book or on my website www.foryourpleasure.com/fyphudsonvalley
Flirting & Teasing!!
I want to talk a little about flirting and teasing! Yes I may sell actual sex toys but I also carry a variety of lotions, potions, and other items that can really be more about setting the mood, creating the atmosphere, flirting, or teasing each other. A lot of people look over how important these things are and how much they can really improve you intimacy level or sexual passion. I asked people where they like to flirt the most and the answer that was kept coming up is through the Internet or over the phone. Even flirting has merged into our very electronic society!
I have home work for you!! Please send me messages and tell me about it!!
For the men in relationships- I want you to take your partner on a date and flirt with your lover like you are trying to pick them up for the first time!
Women in a relationship- Get your self in the mind set of being sexy!! It is more about your mind set then anything else. I want you to make a more on your lover even if this is out of character for you. Send a suggestive email/text flirt with your partner!
Single Women- Go out and flirt with a stranger. Not at the typical bar but some where else… the grocery store, the gym or even at work.
Single Men- Let a lady know you think she is noticeable! Do not do the cheesy pick up lines but a little flirting would be great. Remember that flirting does not have to be sexual it is just about showing that you notice them. Open a door for someone and smile (even better if you were not even going in or out the door when you do it)
What is the difference between flirting and teasing?
Flirting is about getting someone attention and creating a stirring. Flirting can be friendly in nature and innocent. When people flirt it creates a playful feel good mood. A lot of people are proud to call them selves a flirt but would never call them selves a tease. A lot of people also say use the word flirt when it is someone they do not know but tease when it is their partner.
Teasing is much more sexual based. Teasing is all about creating sexual arousal and lust in your partner. Teasing can be used to heighten a sexual experience that is going to occur but also can be left at that high arousal state.
What products can increase your flirtation effectiveness?
Sugar lips-leave you kiss on their body. This is a lip-gloss that will create a tingle on the receiver’s lips. Also if when you kiss them and you kind of suck their lip in a little more they will feel the sensation even more. This way even after your lips are off theirs they are still feeling that kiss!! It also is great for sucking on their nipples when the flirting teasing leads to more! (We have the nipple nibbler not in a lip-gloss but in a container also)
Sweet Snow- this product has many uses and is amazing for flirting and teasing each other. It is an edible body powder that comes with a fun little tickler feather! You can tease your lover with the feather and the powder or you can put the powder on your self and tell them they have to find all the places you put it. It is great for a light dusting on the privates or the chest.. not only does it smell and taste yummy but it makes the skin feel very soft.
Pure Instincts- This oil is for men or women. It makes your body produces it’s Pheromones. Pheromones are the way you attract a mate. The same oil put on different people will have different scent. Have you ever had some one walk by and you almost want to inhale them they smell soooooo good! Scent is important when setting a mood or creating feelings that is why Aromatherapy is on the rise!
How does Flirting and Teasing help Self Confidence?
When you are flirting with someone or they are flirting with you it helps both people’s self-confidence. As the person doing the flirting you are showing some initiative and being in charge of someone else’s response to you. As the person being flirted with it is equally as helpful to self-confidence as it means some one is taking time to notice you and show interest in you. Even if the flirting is not meant to go to a sexual level it can be very rewarding to know that someone is taking that kind of interest in you or has some attraction towards you.
I ask a few people if they thought Flirting/teasing was important in a relationship even if you have been with someone a long time.
Married Female- Very! OMG! I sort of let some flirting go a little too far recently and "Almost" had an affair with my personal trainer. Thank God he was man enough to stop us. He was worried I would ruin my marriage of seven years and he didn't want to be the one to be part of that. My marriage wasn't dull, but there's no attention, no little flirty remarks, teasing, and this caused me to look else where. I've had a huge talk with my husband and confessed EVERYTHING and we're getting over it all and there's more attention now and yes, I feel like a complete child for even thinking of cheating on my husband, but I didn't and to understand my situation a little bit more, I've only been with one man my whole life and that's my husband. Never dated anyone else and this was sort of like a New Me! It felt so good to get attention from other men and now, I know I have to keep it under control but it's so much FUN!! HAHA
Renee Lynn- Definitely. I don't think things that you did when you just started dating should fade away because you get closer and stay together longer. Dating was so much fun, so why stop? I think your long term guy deserves all the special treatment he got at the beginning. Granted things get harder when you have work and bills and live together, but taking just a small amount of time to do something you know makes them smile could improve their day a thousand times over.
Some of your favorite ways to flirt and tease!
Renee Lynn- I love to send Joe tempting text messages since he's so far away. For example I'll just send him a text saying something like, "I'm wearing your favorite thong today". I love how he gets all frustrated because I'm so far away, but it will all make up for it when he comes home. Teasing my husband is so much fun.
Married female- I love flirting at the gym! Well, more of a tease at the gym. I'm taken, so I'll flaunt myself around, then when they come up to me, wanting to talk, I'm like "Yea...I'm doing pretty good... Wanted to come do a quick workout before I go do lunch with my hubby." Then they have that look on their face like "Oh crap!" lol I like the attention mostly! I never had that before, and now, I get it all the time. Makes me feel conceited sometimes!
Jenn- Another great tease is doing a strip tease for you lover or lap dance where you are in control of what they can and can not do. You can allow them to touch or not allow them to as you do your thing. (I do have a friend that I can contact to do a GREAT how to on lap dances and strip teases if you would like to set up a party that includes that)
Here are two tips I took away from a conversation with Ducky Doolittle
When you are out on a date slip way into the bathroom and take off your panties, when you return slide them over to your lover. Now you both are aware that you have no panties on. You may feel each other rushing through the rest of the meal/event! =]
Flirting & Teasing!!
I want to talk a little about flirting and teasing! Yes I may sell actual sex toys but I also carry a variety of lotions, potions, and other items that can really be more about setting the mood, creating the atmosphere, flirting, or teasing each other. A lot of people look over how important these things are and how much they can really improve you intimacy level or sexual passion. I asked people where they like to flirt the most and the answer that was kept coming up is through the Internet or over the phone. Even flirting has merged into our very electronic society!
I have home work for you!! Please send me messages and tell me about it!!
For the men in relationships- I want you to take your partner on a date and flirt with your lover like you are trying to pick them up for the first time!
Women in a relationship- Get your self in the mind set of being sexy!! It is more about your mind set then anything else. I want you to make a more on your lover even if this is out of character for you. Send a suggestive email/text flirt with your partner!
Single Women- Go out and flirt with a stranger. Not at the typical bar but some where else… the grocery store, the gym or even at work.
Single Men- Let a lady know you think she is noticeable! Do not do the cheesy pick up lines but a little flirting would be great. Remember that flirting does not have to be sexual it is just about showing that you notice them. Open a door for someone and smile (even better if you were not even going in or out the door when you do it)
What is the difference between flirting and teasing?
Flirting is about getting someone attention and creating a stirring. Flirting can be friendly in nature and innocent. When people flirt it creates a playful feel good mood. A lot of people are proud to call them selves a flirt but would never call them selves a tease. A lot of people also say use the word flirt when it is someone they do not know but tease when it is their partner.
Teasing is much more sexual based. Teasing is all about creating sexual arousal and lust in your partner. Teasing can be used to heighten a sexual experience that is going to occur but also can be left at that high arousal state.
What products can increase your flirtation effectiveness?
Sugar lips-leave you kiss on their body. This is a lip-gloss that will create a tingle on the receiver’s lips. Also if when you kiss them and you kind of suck their lip in a little more they will feel the sensation even more. This way even after your lips are off theirs they are still feeling that kiss!! It also is great for sucking on their nipples when the flirting teasing leads to more! (We have the nipple nibbler not in a lip-gloss but in a container also)
Sweet Snow- this product has many uses and is amazing for flirting and teasing each other. It is an edible body powder that comes with a fun little tickler feather! You can tease your lover with the feather and the powder or you can put the powder on your self and tell them they have to find all the places you put it. It is great for a light dusting on the privates or the chest.. not only does it smell and taste yummy but it makes the skin feel very soft.
Pure Instincts- This oil is for men or women. It makes your body produces it’s Pheromones. Pheromones are the way you attract a mate. The same oil put on different people will have different scent. Have you ever had some one walk by and you almost want to inhale them they smell soooooo good! Scent is important when setting a mood or creating feelings that is why Aromatherapy is on the rise!
How does Flirting and Teasing help Self Confidence?
When you are flirting with someone or they are flirting with you it helps both people’s self-confidence. As the person doing the flirting you are showing some initiative and being in charge of someone else’s response to you. As the person being flirted with it is equally as helpful to self-confidence as it means some one is taking time to notice you and show interest in you. Even if the flirting is not meant to go to a sexual level it can be very rewarding to know that someone is taking that kind of interest in you or has some attraction towards you.
I ask a few people if they thought Flirting/teasing was important in a relationship even if you have been with someone a long time.
Married Female- Very! OMG! I sort of let some flirting go a little too far recently and "Almost" had an affair with my personal trainer. Thank God he was man enough to stop us. He was worried I would ruin my marriage of seven years and he didn't want to be the one to be part of that. My marriage wasn't dull, but there's no attention, no little flirty remarks, teasing, and this caused me to look else where. I've had a huge talk with my husband and confessed EVERYTHING and we're getting over it all and there's more attention now and yes, I feel like a complete child for even thinking of cheating on my husband, but I didn't and to understand my situation a little bit more, I've only been with one man my whole life and that's my husband. Never dated anyone else and this was sort of like a New Me! It felt so good to get attention from other men and now, I know I have to keep it under control but it's so much FUN!! HAHA
Renee Lynn- Definitely. I don't think things that you did when you just started dating should fade away because you get closer and stay together longer. Dating was so much fun, so why stop? I think your long term guy deserves all the special treatment he got at the beginning. Granted things get harder when you have work and bills and live together, but taking just a small amount of time to do something you know makes them smile could improve their day a thousand times over.
Some of your favorite ways to flirt and tease!
Renee Lynn- I love to send Joe tempting text messages since he's so far away. For example I'll just send him a text saying something like, "I'm wearing your favorite thong today". I love how he gets all frustrated because I'm so far away, but it will all make up for it when he comes home. Teasing my husband is so much fun.
Married female- I love flirting at the gym! Well, more of a tease at the gym. I'm taken, so I'll flaunt myself around, then when they come up to me, wanting to talk, I'm like "Yea...I'm doing pretty good... Wanted to come do a quick workout before I go do lunch with my hubby." Then they have that look on their face like "Oh crap!" lol I like the attention mostly! I never had that before, and now, I get it all the time. Makes me feel conceited sometimes!
Jenn- Another great tease is doing a strip tease for you lover or lap dance where you are in control of what they can and can not do. You can allow them to touch or not allow them to as you do your thing. (I do have a friend that I can contact to do a GREAT how to on lap dances and strip teases if you would like to set up a party that includes that)
Here are two tips I took away from a conversation with Ducky Doolittle
When you are out on a date slip way into the bathroom and take off your panties, when you return slide them over to your lover. Now you both are aware that you have no panties on. You may feel each other rushing through the rest of the meal/event! =]
Where a sexy out fit at a random time when doing normal things. Ducky told us about how she had been doing some cleaning and she needed to clean behind the refrigerator. She put on a sexy out fit and then called her Hubby in and asked him to help her. He was surprised and turned on by her out fit. he was very fast at helping her and then wanted to do more! How ever she finished what she was doing in her out fit and then after she was done they had AMAZING sex. This is how teasing can create a passion or a lust.
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