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Thursday, March 26, 2009
Anal Play
Anal Play: It doesn’t have to hurt! Girls and guys can love it!
P.S. He is not Gay if he enjoys it!!
A lot of people assume that if a man enjoys anal play, giving and or receiving that he is gay. This is not true!! Being a Gay male is about whom you are attracted to and who you love not the sex acts you enjoy!
Anal play can be very pleasing for a man gay or straight. People tend to associate anal play with homosexual males because it is the most common form of sexual contact between them but it does not mean that all men who enjoy anal sex are gay! Oral sex is the most common form of sexual contact between two women that does not mean that if a woman enjoys oral sex she is a lesbian! It is sad how society sets these double standards or beliefs in relationship to sex and gender.
Lets talk about how anal play can be pleasurable for men and/or women. I am also going to provide at the end of this blog a few items that are great for beginners to anal play! If you order any of the items in response to this post you will receive a 15% discount on them!
Isn’t anal sex painful?
Actually anal sex does not have to be painful at all! Anal sex is something that should be done with someone you trust and you should only do it if you really want to. Any sex act you do just to please someone else not because you want to will not be pleasurable for you! I want to tell you a few tips to help decrease the chances of anal sex being painful!
1. Desire- The only way the you should do anal sex is if you really want to! Do not do it just because your partner wants to.
2. Lube- This is very important as the anus does not self-lubercate. With out lube the friction can be very painful. The thicker the lube the better! Do not use oils or creams!!
3. Entry should be angled- Alot of people want to just plow right in but if you want to make it less painfull entry should be done from an angle this way they are pushing the mussle down on entry.
4. Breathing- focus on your breathing it helps relax the body if you tense up your body will fight it more
5. Communication- talk to each other if you need him/her to slow down say so. If you need more lube add it.
Other tips!! Experiment with your own butt before letting anyone else do it. That way you get use to the idea and see how you feel about the sensation. Have your lover play with it first either with thier tounge or finger. Start with just the tip let the muscles relaxe and then let the recieve gauge the pace in the begining.
Is Anal Play Safe?
Why do so many men enjoy giving anal sex to another person?
Well there are a few different reasons why a man would enjoy this. The anus is a very powerful muscle and the whole itself is a much tighter gripping whole. Many men love the way that anal sex grabs him. Another reason some men enjoy giving anal sex is that it is a dominance thing.
Why would a woman enjoy receiving anal play?
Women can have orgasms from anal sex. Your but is part of all your orgasms and can be triggered by anything that you feel is pleasureable. Some women love the full feeling that they get from anal sex.
Why would a man enjoy receiving anal play?
Ok first thing to point out is the prostate is like the male g-spot. Anal play will stimulate the prostate. Any man can enjoy prostate stimualtion not just gay men!
What are some items that can be used in anal play?
There are many types of anal play items. Beads, plugs, or vibes. The important part of anal play is only use items with a flared base or an anchor outside the body. This is because the muscels in the butt are VERY strong and you do not need then to pull an item to deep.... I am sure you have seen on the internet or heard er stories of things being stuck in peoples butts! Also stay away from beads with string between them!! These strings never really get cleaned and the butt is full of bacteria!! Make sure all items are smooth that if the items have seams run your fingers over them. It is important to keep your butt safe!!
A lot of people assume that if a man enjoys anal play, giving and or receiving that he is gay. This is not true!! Being a Gay male is about whom you are attracted to and who you love not the sex acts you enjoy!
Anal play can be very pleasing for a man gay or straight. People tend to associate anal play with homosexual males because it is the most common form of sexual contact between them but it does not mean that all men who enjoy anal sex are gay! Oral sex is the most common form of sexual contact between two women that does not mean that if a woman enjoys oral sex she is a lesbian! It is sad how society sets these double standards or beliefs in relationship to sex and gender.
Lets talk about how anal play can be pleasurable for men and/or women. I am also going to provide at the end of this blog a few items that are great for beginners to anal play! If you order any of the items in response to this post you will receive a 15% discount on them!
Isn’t anal sex painful?
Actually anal sex does not have to be painful at all! Anal sex is something that should be done with someone you trust and you should only do it if you really want to. Any sex act you do just to please someone else not because you want to will not be pleasurable for you! I want to tell you a few tips to help decrease the chances of anal sex being painful!
1. Desire- The only way the you should do anal sex is if you really want to! Do not do it just because your partner wants to.
2. Lube- This is very important as the anus does not self-lubercate. With out lube the friction can be very painful. The thicker the lube the better! Do not use oils or creams!!
3. Entry should be angled- Alot of people want to just plow right in but if you want to make it less painfull entry should be done from an angle this way they are pushing the mussle down on entry.
4. Breathing- focus on your breathing it helps relax the body if you tense up your body will fight it more
5. Communication- talk to each other if you need him/her to slow down say so. If you need more lube add it.
Other tips!! Experiment with your own butt before letting anyone else do it. That way you get use to the idea and see how you feel about the sensation. Have your lover play with it first either with thier tounge or finger. Start with just the tip let the muscles relaxe and then let the recieve gauge the pace in the begining.
Is Anal Play Safe?
Why do so many men enjoy giving anal sex to another person?
Well there are a few different reasons why a man would enjoy this. The anus is a very powerful muscle and the whole itself is a much tighter gripping whole. Many men love the way that anal sex grabs him. Another reason some men enjoy giving anal sex is that it is a dominance thing.
Why would a woman enjoy receiving anal play?
Women can have orgasms from anal sex. Your but is part of all your orgasms and can be triggered by anything that you feel is pleasureable. Some women love the full feeling that they get from anal sex.
Why would a man enjoy receiving anal play?
Ok first thing to point out is the prostate is like the male g-spot. Anal play will stimulate the prostate. Any man can enjoy prostate stimualtion not just gay men!
What are some items that can be used in anal play?
There are many types of anal play items. Beads, plugs, or vibes. The important part of anal play is only use items with a flared base or an anchor outside the body. This is because the muscels in the butt are VERY strong and you do not need then to pull an item to deep.... I am sure you have seen on the internet or heard er stories of things being stuck in peoples butts! Also stay away from beads with string between them!! These strings never really get cleaned and the butt is full of bacteria!! Make sure all items are smooth that if the items have seams run your fingers over them. It is important to keep your butt safe!!
Here are my Top Anal play pics!
Product # 8460Personal Lubricant - Silicone 2.5 oz.This silicone based lubricant is designed for multiple uses: skin conditioner, moisturizer, a therapeutic massage formula for daily use. It is 100% latex safe, long lasting, odor & fragrance free, non-staining, non-allergenic, never sticky or tacky, and does not block pores. This is a must have! Size: 2.5 Fl. Oz., Material: Silicone Price: $21.00
(This is my personal favorite lube for all sex play or massage!)
Product # 12680X-10 BeadsSturdy, pliable, translucent jelly stimulator beads for total "x-tacy". 11 inches long and 10 graduating beads, with an easy to use retrieval handle. A-11" Price: $11.00
(great starter topy for anal play)
Product # 6420Little FlirtThe design of the ultra-popular Little Flirt features a longer neck to help the plug stay put and allow for deeper penetration, as well as, a tapered base to offer a more comfortable fit. The Little Flirt is the ultimate introduction to the pleasures of anal play. Size: 4" Material: Silicone (WP, PF, HC) Color: Copper, Red, Black (Sorry, not available in Purple)Price: $39.00
(high quaility and great for people new to anal play)
Product # 2888Dr. Joel Kaplan Power ProbeErgonomically shaped, powerful, 2-speed massagers with push button controls and a non-slip grip. Material: Silicone Two Styles to Choose from - Missile or ProstatePrice: $28.00
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Monday, March 23, 2009
Porn Porn Porn
Porn Porn Porn! Not just for the men!!
This is another double Standard I have come across in relationship to sex topics and gender. In many cases people find it natural and expected for a man to enjoy porn in it’s many forms where women are supposedly disgusted with it. This is NOT true!! I want to discuss these double standards and some different areas that feed into it.
When you flip through the magazines in the Adult section of a store you always see Playboy, Penthouse, and many others that are similar in nature. You may only find one type that has men in it like Play Girl. Even in TV shows they always talk about men in liking Porn and it causing problems with girl friends or wives. This is a stereotype that yes is true in some cases but not all. A lot of women have no problem with their male Counter part enjoying porn and in many cases they them selves enjoy it also.
What are some of the most common types of porn?
Well the porn magazines that are best known are Playboy, Playgirl and Pent House. These magazines are full of pictures some articles and Bio’s. There are also many magazines that are just written Erotica. Magazines are items that a person buys once and can keep or toss whenever they feel fit. They can be sent as a subscription or bought at stores as individuals. Many magazines if kept in good condition become collectables. Mind you only ones in good condition are worth saving as collectables… ones that show use should not be shared with others! LOL
Now that we are in the age of computers we also have a lot of Porn sites. These sites in some cases have videos, chats, stories, and pictures. One that I know is very popular is www.literotica.com. Many of these sites you must register for. Some areas may be free such as user chats and stories. Where as other areas you must pay for such as Movies, Web cams, or Personals. These memberships are normally monthly. Unlike a magazine when you pay for a website you don’t really get a tangible item you can keep and store. People have to be very careful in respect to what Porn websites and areas they access as many of these sites have hackers on them or viruses.
(Yes-even web/cyber sex can cause viruses… just a different type)
There are also movies! One of the most common forms of Porn is in the form of movies. Movies can be rented from stores, bought from stores, rented on demand or downloaded off line. Movies give you a lot of options! There are movies out there on every type of sex, fetish, and preferences. Movies are a common form of porn that is shared together with a partner. In many cases the movie can be a form of four play. It also can give a couple ideas and help them get in the mood.
I want to point out that there are many of us women that enjoy porn as much as a man would. It is a fact that is can take a man under 3 minutes to get fully aroused where women it can take around 20 minutes s. Porn can really help many women get to the same arousal start as their male counter part.
Porn is not only for straight men or women! There are a lot of homosexual and Bi-Sexual porn. Sadly enough a lot of the Pleasure Porn or Sexual Educational porn is more for straight couples. It is a lot harder to find position guides, or arousal guides that show two women or two men. This is an area I feel the Sex industry should be addressing more. We live in a world of many types of relationships and levels of sex play. I feel that it is time to break the double standard connected to porn and the heterosexual males.
This is another double Standard I have come across in relationship to sex topics and gender. In many cases people find it natural and expected for a man to enjoy porn in it’s many forms where women are supposedly disgusted with it. This is NOT true!! I want to discuss these double standards and some different areas that feed into it.
When you flip through the magazines in the Adult section of a store you always see Playboy, Penthouse, and many others that are similar in nature. You may only find one type that has men in it like Play Girl. Even in TV shows they always talk about men in liking Porn and it causing problems with girl friends or wives. This is a stereotype that yes is true in some cases but not all. A lot of women have no problem with their male Counter part enjoying porn and in many cases they them selves enjoy it also.
What are some of the most common types of porn?
Well the porn magazines that are best known are Playboy, Playgirl and Pent House. These magazines are full of pictures some articles and Bio’s. There are also many magazines that are just written Erotica. Magazines are items that a person buys once and can keep or toss whenever they feel fit. They can be sent as a subscription or bought at stores as individuals. Many magazines if kept in good condition become collectables. Mind you only ones in good condition are worth saving as collectables… ones that show use should not be shared with others! LOL
Now that we are in the age of computers we also have a lot of Porn sites. These sites in some cases have videos, chats, stories, and pictures. One that I know is very popular is www.literotica.com. Many of these sites you must register for. Some areas may be free such as user chats and stories. Where as other areas you must pay for such as Movies, Web cams, or Personals. These memberships are normally monthly. Unlike a magazine when you pay for a website you don’t really get a tangible item you can keep and store. People have to be very careful in respect to what Porn websites and areas they access as many of these sites have hackers on them or viruses.
(Yes-even web/cyber sex can cause viruses… just a different type)
There are also movies! One of the most common forms of Porn is in the form of movies. Movies can be rented from stores, bought from stores, rented on demand or downloaded off line. Movies give you a lot of options! There are movies out there on every type of sex, fetish, and preferences. Movies are a common form of porn that is shared together with a partner. In many cases the movie can be a form of four play. It also can give a couple ideas and help them get in the mood.
I want to point out that there are many of us women that enjoy porn as much as a man would. It is a fact that is can take a man under 3 minutes to get fully aroused where women it can take around 20 minutes s. Porn can really help many women get to the same arousal start as their male counter part.
Porn is not only for straight men or women! There are a lot of homosexual and Bi-Sexual porn. Sadly enough a lot of the Pleasure Porn or Sexual Educational porn is more for straight couples. It is a lot harder to find position guides, or arousal guides that show two women or two men. This is an area I feel the Sex industry should be addressing more. We live in a world of many types of relationships and levels of sex play. I feel that it is time to break the double standard connected to porn and the heterosexual males.
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