Posted Dec 31st 2008 9:51AM
by eHarmony Advice
Okay, so maybe you didn't meet the love of your life in 2008. Rather than spend the holiday season bemoaning what went wrong, instead focus your energies on how to rock your dating future. Pay attention to what didn't work this year, and then figure out how to transform your social life in 2009. By making a few slight tweaks to your dating outlook, 2009 might just be the year of Y-O-U. Go ahead, give yourself permission to take chances, become more daring, and embody your sexiest self in the coming year. The following five tips will show you how.
Tip #1: Ditch the baggageInstead of dragging around all that old, tired emotional baggage with you everywhere you go, now's the time to dump your excess baggage and become baggage light. After all, the past is the past. You can't change what happened. And you certainly don't want to make future potential partners pay for the pain of past relationships, right? That's why your sexy self is firmly focused on your amazing future. By simply saying sayonara to past mistakes and regrets, you'll become much lighter, feel incredibly free, and start attracting more suitable and desirable candidates in 2009. Talk about becoming your sexiest self!
Meet Someone Special This Year With...
Tip #2: Confidence is keyNow that you're baggage light, it's time to rock your confidence factor. And you know what Dr. Phil says: Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it. So go ahead, give yourself permission to wear more confidence than you've been previously comfortable with. Show the world how fabulous you are, even if you don't quite feel it yet. Straighten your shoulders, keep your head held high, and strut your stuff when you enter a room – these are all confidence boosters that people take notice of and are attracted to. Why not give it a shot and see what happens? By simply embodying a more confident persona, you'll be surprised at how people respond to and treat you differently. You may even catch a cutie's eye, prompting that person to slip you his or her digits. Score!
Tip #3: Talk to strangersIn the past, you may have been a bit of a wallflower in social situations. Whenever you saw someone you found attractive, maybe you averted your gaze out of insecurity or fear of getting rejected. Sound familiar? Not anymore! In 2009, your sexy self is taking charge. As a result, you're going to get out of your own way and start making eye contact with those cuties you see at the bar, in the bookstore, or on the subway. If they return your gaze, share a smile. If they smile back, summon your inner strength and say hello. That's it. You don't have to make a love connection or exchange phone numbers to achieve success (of course, if you do, that works, too!). All you need to do is get comfortable talking to strangers so that when someone really amazing comes along, you're able to confidently converse and eventually charm him or her with your sexiest self.
Tip #4: Channel your inner sex kitten (or jungle cat)Just as embodying confidence and learning to talk to strangers are essential factors in rocking your love life, so is learning to celebrate your sultry side. By wearing clothes that make you feel good about yourself, mastering the art of flirtation, and knowing how to make a memorable entrance in any room, you'll have like-minded individuals lining up to talk to you. And no, just because you celebrate your sexy self does NOT mean you're advertising promiscuity. Rather, you're embracing a key part of who you are, perfecting the art of attraction, and showing other people that you find yourself desirable. In turn, others will be more drawn to you. It's then up to you to decide whom you want to get to know better. Love that!
Tip #5: Make bold choicesNow that you're ready to rock your social life in 2009, it's time to start making bigger, bolder choices. And not just in your dating life. What else could you do to make yourself feel super sexy in the coming year? Pursue that promotion? Purchase your dream home? Take that scenic tour of Europe you've been dreaming about for a decade? By making big, bold life choices in the coming year, you show the world around you that you trust yourself and are unafraid to take risks, and, as a result, you reap rockin' rewards. Rewards like the corner office, a condo with a view of downtown, and possibly even the partner of your dreams. How sexy is that?! (The answer is "very!")
By incorporating the five tips mentioned above into your everyday existence, you greatly increase your chances of becoming your sexiest self in 2009. Even if you just put one tip into practice every month for the next five months, the results are sure to rock your world. So go ahead, have fun, push your comfort zone, and don't forget to live B-I-G in 2009. Good luck and happy dating!
Friday, January 2, 2009
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Cheating myths
I found this on Aol. Thought it was something I would share with you all.
Cheating Myths
By. Vicki Salemi
Not everyone cheats, but a lot of us do. According to a 2006 report on sexual behavior by the National Opinion Research Center, nearly a quarter of married men and 13% of married women have had an affair. But there's more to infidelity than you think. The truth may surprise you.
Just about sex
Not so, says Scott Haltzman, MD, a clinical professor at Brown University and author of ''The Secrets of Happy Married Men.' Cheating can occur on an emotional level without any sexual contact. Friendship becomes emotional infidelity when there is an emotional intimacy, sexual tension and is kept secret or outside the marriage, says Dr. Haltzman.
People cheat because they've fallen out of love
"Few affairs begin because one person feels like they no longer love their spouse or partner," says Dr. Haltzman. "They may not be happy at the moment but it doesn't mean there isn't any love." Reasons for cheating often point to other issues in the relationship, such as the husband needing an ego boost from a woman not his wife, or the wife looking for more attention than she gets at home.
People cheat only with hotter, younger people
If Prince Charles and Camilla Parker Bowles are any indication, the unfaithful don't necessarily gravitate to the hotter, younger. An affair is often rooted in a void in your current relationship, says Matt Titus, a relationship expert and author of 'Why Hasn't He Called?' "You cheat because you're looking for what your spouse or partner doesn't have." For example, some cheaters are blind to looks but bedazzled by wit, wealth or intelligence.
Once a cheater, always a cheater
"When you learn by loss, you see repercussions for your actions," says Titus. A reformed adulterer from his first marriage (which ended in divorce), he says he's felt the consequences of his infidelity and matured emotionally from the experience. He's now remarried. "I was given a second chance. I would never cheat on my wife, so once a cheater, always a cheater is not always true."
A marriage can't withstand cheating
"An affair doesn't have to be a death knell to a relationship," says Dr. Haltzman. "It can be a wake up call instead." If you look on the bright side, an affair can be a springboard to open a dialogue via counseling sessions to discuss the underlying problems in the relationship. "A marriage or relationship absolutely can withstand cheating."
One-time cheating is no different than an affair
"It is different," says Rhonda Fine, PhD, a clinical sexologist and diplomate of The American Academy of Clinical Sexologists. "One-time cheating still breaks a bond of trust in your relationship, but affairs are much more emotionally vested than a one-night stand." In both cases you've disrespected your partner and marriage vows, but ongoing affairs could be worse, as they often lead to emotional intimacy.
Women don't cheat
Oh yes they do, corrects Dr. Fine. "As women are more involved in the workforce and travel on business trips, they encounter more situations which make them prone to cheating." Plus, Dr. Fine says women bond more easily than men. "When they work closely with men, they feel more emotionally vested in the relationship."
Men cheat because they're not getting enough at home
There are a variety of reasons why people cheat, and it's not always about the sex, says Dr. Fine. "People cheat because they're selfish, immature or narcisstic. Or they're excitement junkies and attracted to the drama. They put their needs ahead of others and rarely blame themselves why they cheated in the first place."
A midlife crisis = cheating
The thing about clichés, like graying hair and convertibles, is that most are based on fact. But a midlife crisis is much more. In an online poll produced by Wisconsin Public Radio, more than half of the respondents said that a midlife crisis is a "very real, gut-wrenchingly depressing experience." Some men hit middle age and have affairs. Others, however, start drinking too much or become clinically depressed. That's when it's time to seek counseling.
Cheaters don't want to get caught
Quite the contrary, notes Dr. Haltzman. "People may actually set it up so the spouse or partner find out. Whether it's lipstick on the collar or emails left open on the family computer, we leave our fingerprints everywhere. Oftentimes, "it's a cry to say 'I need to get help.' Some people make it obvious because they want to stop but don't know how."
Cheating Myths
By. Vicki Salemi
Not everyone cheats, but a lot of us do. According to a 2006 report on sexual behavior by the National Opinion Research Center, nearly a quarter of married men and 13% of married women have had an affair. But there's more to infidelity than you think. The truth may surprise you.
Just about sex
Not so, says Scott Haltzman, MD, a clinical professor at Brown University and author of ''The Secrets of Happy Married Men.' Cheating can occur on an emotional level without any sexual contact. Friendship becomes emotional infidelity when there is an emotional intimacy, sexual tension and is kept secret or outside the marriage, says Dr. Haltzman.
People cheat because they've fallen out of love
"Few affairs begin because one person feels like they no longer love their spouse or partner," says Dr. Haltzman. "They may not be happy at the moment but it doesn't mean there isn't any love." Reasons for cheating often point to other issues in the relationship, such as the husband needing an ego boost from a woman not his wife, or the wife looking for more attention than she gets at home.
People cheat only with hotter, younger people
If Prince Charles and Camilla Parker Bowles are any indication, the unfaithful don't necessarily gravitate to the hotter, younger. An affair is often rooted in a void in your current relationship, says Matt Titus, a relationship expert and author of 'Why Hasn't He Called?' "You cheat because you're looking for what your spouse or partner doesn't have." For example, some cheaters are blind to looks but bedazzled by wit, wealth or intelligence.
Once a cheater, always a cheater
"When you learn by loss, you see repercussions for your actions," says Titus. A reformed adulterer from his first marriage (which ended in divorce), he says he's felt the consequences of his infidelity and matured emotionally from the experience. He's now remarried. "I was given a second chance. I would never cheat on my wife, so once a cheater, always a cheater is not always true."
A marriage can't withstand cheating
"An affair doesn't have to be a death knell to a relationship," says Dr. Haltzman. "It can be a wake up call instead." If you look on the bright side, an affair can be a springboard to open a dialogue via counseling sessions to discuss the underlying problems in the relationship. "A marriage or relationship absolutely can withstand cheating."
One-time cheating is no different than an affair
"It is different," says Rhonda Fine, PhD, a clinical sexologist and diplomate of The American Academy of Clinical Sexologists. "One-time cheating still breaks a bond of trust in your relationship, but affairs are much more emotionally vested than a one-night stand." In both cases you've disrespected your partner and marriage vows, but ongoing affairs could be worse, as they often lead to emotional intimacy.
Women don't cheat
Oh yes they do, corrects Dr. Fine. "As women are more involved in the workforce and travel on business trips, they encounter more situations which make them prone to cheating." Plus, Dr. Fine says women bond more easily than men. "When they work closely with men, they feel more emotionally vested in the relationship."
Men cheat because they're not getting enough at home
There are a variety of reasons why people cheat, and it's not always about the sex, says Dr. Fine. "People cheat because they're selfish, immature or narcisstic. Or they're excitement junkies and attracted to the drama. They put their needs ahead of others and rarely blame themselves why they cheated in the first place."
A midlife crisis = cheating
The thing about clichés, like graying hair and convertibles, is that most are based on fact. But a midlife crisis is much more. In an online poll produced by Wisconsin Public Radio, more than half of the respondents said that a midlife crisis is a "very real, gut-wrenchingly depressing experience." Some men hit middle age and have affairs. Others, however, start drinking too much or become clinically depressed. That's when it's time to seek counseling.
Cheaters don't want to get caught
Quite the contrary, notes Dr. Haltzman. "People may actually set it up so the spouse or partner find out. Whether it's lipstick on the collar or emails left open on the family computer, we leave our fingerprints everywhere. Oftentimes, "it's a cry to say 'I need to get help.' Some people make it obvious because they want to stop but don't know how."
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Open invite Party
Hey Girls!
I wanted to let you know that there is an open invite party being held in Poughkeepsie on Sat Jan 24th at my house for ladies only!! (Canterbury garden apartments in Poughkeepsie) This is an EXTRA special party!! My hostess is an amazing girl name Lisa. She is going to be showing us how to do a simple strip tease for your partner! There will be a lot of good tips to make your V-Day (or any day) amazing. All orders placed at the party will be in for Valentines Day!
Get your girls together and stop by have some fun, laugh a little, learn a little, and shop a little. All the perfect things for a girl’s night! Please call or email me to let me know you and your friends are coming! I would love to have a great turn out for Lisa! The more people who come the more fun we will have!!
Phone: 845-242-3498
Email: fyphudsonvalley@yahoo.com
I wanted to let you know that there is an open invite party being held in Poughkeepsie on Sat Jan 24th at my house for ladies only!! (Canterbury garden apartments in Poughkeepsie) This is an EXTRA special party!! My hostess is an amazing girl name Lisa. She is going to be showing us how to do a simple strip tease for your partner! There will be a lot of good tips to make your V-Day (or any day) amazing. All orders placed at the party will be in for Valentines Day!
Get your girls together and stop by have some fun, laugh a little, learn a little, and shop a little. All the perfect things for a girl’s night! Please call or email me to let me know you and your friends are coming! I would love to have a great turn out for Lisa! The more people who come the more fun we will have!!
Phone: 845-242-3498
Email: fyphudsonvalley@yahoo.com
Monday, December 29, 2008
Catalog Parties
Catalog Parties
What do you get for doing a catalog party?
As a person doing a catalog party you will receive hostess credits like you would as if you hosted a at home party. The credit chart is listed on page 110 of the catalog.
I personally do two extra things for catalog parties’ because the people are not able to play the games and win prizes that we do at a home party. Along with hostess credits the person doing the catalog party will receive a FYP goodie bag from me. One of their ordering people will also be selected to receive a FYP goodie bag.
**This is dependent on it being a qualified party ($150 in sales or more)**
How do you do a catalog party?
Sharing your copy of the catalog with your friends and family is how you do a catalog party. Some people are not comfortable attending or hosting a home party or just does not have the time. This is a great way to earn free products with out having to plan an actual physical party. However you can use a catalog party to boost sales for your up coming home party! With a Home party you and I would discus a day you we would close the party. This means that all orders and payments must be given to me on that day so that all items can be order and shipped.
How do I fill out the orders and keep them confidential?
Even though people may say they do not mind if others know what they order it is important that all orders are kept confidential! I will provide you with order sheets and tell you how they are to be filled out. Allow you friends and family to fill these out and place them along with their payment into an envelope that can be sealed.
If at any time you or them have a question I will be available just call or email me. I will answer questions about products, taxes, how to fill things out or just general inquiries.
Shipping charges are a flat rate. The customer pays 8.95 for shipping to their house (or where ever they need it shipped to) or 5.95 to the Hostess house. Your home or designated shipping area would be the hostess place. I will talk more about the shipping soon. Taxes are based on the town the items are being shipped to.
Where and when will the items be shipped?
Items can be shipped to the designated Hostess/Host shipping address or to the person’s individual location. Shipments will come UPS so they cannot go to a P.O. Box. All shipments are shipped discreetly! Don’t worry no big box is going to be on your doorstep that say sex toys! When items are shipped to the hostess location they will be sent together but packaged separately with just the customers name. They do not have to worry about you seeing what they ordered. Any items shipped to the Hostess location you will be responsible to getting to them in a timely manor. Items will arrive 1-2 weeks after the party is submitted. (I will provide package tracking dates and info if you would like)
How are people allowed to pay?
People are allowed to pay with Cash, Check, money order or credit card. If paying with Check or money order it must be made out to me, Jennifer Day. As for a credit card they MUST sign the order form and provide the code from the back of the card. Any one paying with check must know that there will be $25.00 bounced check fee (plus any added fees their bank charges me) on any returned checks!!
How will I know what my credits earned are if the orders are confidential?
The most important thing for you to do is fill out your wish list. This will be the items you would like to order. (Include at least one Hostess exclusive). When you provide me with the orders I will double check all payments and orders and be able to tell you exactly what your hostess credits are and what specials you qualify for. I could go over this over the phone with you or in person. This way we can go over your order and if there are any items you are purchasing out side of your free products I can give you your exact total.
Can I get booking credits for catalog parties?
YES!! If any of the people who order from you indicate that they would like to do a home party or a catalog party you DO receive booking credits. Booking credits are also outlined on page 110 of the catalog. All parties must be held with in 6 months of the original party and be qualifying in nature ($150 in sales or more) Each booking credit can be redeemed separately or held till all bookings are completed (holding them cuts done on shipping cost as when done individual they have separate shipping) You also can get credit for booking your own party! If you hold a second party in 6 months that counts as one of your booking credits!!
Do catalog parties have the same benefits as home parties?
YES!! You are eligible for all the same credits and specials as a home party. The only difference is you do not have the physical gathering where I provide items for you and your guest to feel, touch, taste and learn. I will however, be reachable for all your friends and family to answer any questions!! Home Parties are ALOT of fun and I recommend hosting or attending one if ever possible, (I do have many that are open invites) but you do not have to have one to earn free products! I will also provide you will items I give home party hostesses to boost your sales, such as the hostess raffle. Even non-ordering guest can participate in the raffle! You get a sheet of 50 boxes; each box is $2.00 however much is raised is then raffled off as a shopping spree! The amount from the raffle is also credited to you, as the hostess, as retail credit so it has a major boost to your hostess credits! In each box they purchase you just put their name and phone number. Please keep raffle money separate from order money, as it is not taxed!
What do you get for doing a catalog party?
As a person doing a catalog party you will receive hostess credits like you would as if you hosted a at home party. The credit chart is listed on page 110 of the catalog.
I personally do two extra things for catalog parties’ because the people are not able to play the games and win prizes that we do at a home party. Along with hostess credits the person doing the catalog party will receive a FYP goodie bag from me. One of their ordering people will also be selected to receive a FYP goodie bag.
**This is dependent on it being a qualified party ($150 in sales or more)**
How do you do a catalog party?
Sharing your copy of the catalog with your friends and family is how you do a catalog party. Some people are not comfortable attending or hosting a home party or just does not have the time. This is a great way to earn free products with out having to plan an actual physical party. However you can use a catalog party to boost sales for your up coming home party! With a Home party you and I would discus a day you we would close the party. This means that all orders and payments must be given to me on that day so that all items can be order and shipped.
How do I fill out the orders and keep them confidential?
Even though people may say they do not mind if others know what they order it is important that all orders are kept confidential! I will provide you with order sheets and tell you how they are to be filled out. Allow you friends and family to fill these out and place them along with their payment into an envelope that can be sealed.
If at any time you or them have a question I will be available just call or email me. I will answer questions about products, taxes, how to fill things out or just general inquiries.
Shipping charges are a flat rate. The customer pays 8.95 for shipping to their house (or where ever they need it shipped to) or 5.95 to the Hostess house. Your home or designated shipping area would be the hostess place. I will talk more about the shipping soon. Taxes are based on the town the items are being shipped to.
Where and when will the items be shipped?
Items can be shipped to the designated Hostess/Host shipping address or to the person’s individual location. Shipments will come UPS so they cannot go to a P.O. Box. All shipments are shipped discreetly! Don’t worry no big box is going to be on your doorstep that say sex toys! When items are shipped to the hostess location they will be sent together but packaged separately with just the customers name. They do not have to worry about you seeing what they ordered. Any items shipped to the Hostess location you will be responsible to getting to them in a timely manor. Items will arrive 1-2 weeks after the party is submitted. (I will provide package tracking dates and info if you would like)
How are people allowed to pay?
People are allowed to pay with Cash, Check, money order or credit card. If paying with Check or money order it must be made out to me, Jennifer Day. As for a credit card they MUST sign the order form and provide the code from the back of the card. Any one paying with check must know that there will be $25.00 bounced check fee (plus any added fees their bank charges me) on any returned checks!!
How will I know what my credits earned are if the orders are confidential?
The most important thing for you to do is fill out your wish list. This will be the items you would like to order. (Include at least one Hostess exclusive). When you provide me with the orders I will double check all payments and orders and be able to tell you exactly what your hostess credits are and what specials you qualify for. I could go over this over the phone with you or in person. This way we can go over your order and if there are any items you are purchasing out side of your free products I can give you your exact total.
Can I get booking credits for catalog parties?
YES!! If any of the people who order from you indicate that they would like to do a home party or a catalog party you DO receive booking credits. Booking credits are also outlined on page 110 of the catalog. All parties must be held with in 6 months of the original party and be qualifying in nature ($150 in sales or more) Each booking credit can be redeemed separately or held till all bookings are completed (holding them cuts done on shipping cost as when done individual they have separate shipping) You also can get credit for booking your own party! If you hold a second party in 6 months that counts as one of your booking credits!!
Do catalog parties have the same benefits as home parties?
YES!! You are eligible for all the same credits and specials as a home party. The only difference is you do not have the physical gathering where I provide items for you and your guest to feel, touch, taste and learn. I will however, be reachable for all your friends and family to answer any questions!! Home Parties are ALOT of fun and I recommend hosting or attending one if ever possible, (I do have many that are open invites) but you do not have to have one to earn free products! I will also provide you will items I give home party hostesses to boost your sales, such as the hostess raffle. Even non-ordering guest can participate in the raffle! You get a sheet of 50 boxes; each box is $2.00 however much is raised is then raffled off as a shopping spree! The amount from the raffle is also credited to you, as the hostess, as retail credit so it has a major boost to your hostess credits! In each box they purchase you just put their name and phone number. Please keep raffle money separate from order money, as it is not taxed!
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