How to Become Your Sexiest Self in 2009!

Posted Dec 31st 2008 9:51AM

by eHarmony Advice

Okay, so maybe you didn't meet the love of your life in 2008. Rather than spend the holiday season bemoaning what went wrong, instead focus your energies on how to rock your dating future. Pay attention to what didn't work this year, and then figure out how to transform your social life in 2009. By making a few slight tweaks to your dating outlook, 2009 might just be the year of Y-O-U. Go ahead, give yourself permission to take chances, become more daring, and embody your sexiest self in the coming year. The following five tips will show you how.

Tip #1: Ditch the baggageInstead of dragging around all that old, tired emotional baggage with you everywhere you go, now's the time to dump your excess baggage and become baggage light. After all, the past is the past. You can't change what happened. And you certainly don't want to make future potential partners pay for the pain of past relationships, right? That's why your sexy self is firmly focused on your amazing future. By simply saying sayonara to past mistakes and regrets, you'll become much lighter, feel incredibly free, and start attracting more suitable and desirable candidates in 2009. Talk about becoming your sexiest self!
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Tip #2: Confidence is keyNow that you're baggage light, it's time to rock your confidence factor. And you know what Dr. Phil says: Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it. So go ahead, give yourself permission to wear more confidence than you've been previously comfortable with. Show the world how fabulous you are, even if you don't quite feel it yet. Straighten your shoulders, keep your head held high, and strut your stuff when you enter a room – these are all confidence boosters that people take notice of and are attracted to. Why not give it a shot and see what happens? By simply embodying a more confident persona, you'll be surprised at how people respond to and treat you differently. You may even catch a cutie's eye, prompting that person to slip you his or her digits. Score!

Tip #3: Talk to strangersIn the past, you may have been a bit of a wallflower in social situations. Whenever you saw someone you found attractive, maybe you averted your gaze out of insecurity or fear of getting rejected. Sound familiar? Not anymore! In 2009, your sexy self is taking charge. As a result, you're going to get out of your own way and start making eye contact with those cuties you see at the bar, in the bookstore, or on the subway. If they return your gaze, share a smile. If they smile back, summon your inner strength and say hello. That's it. You don't have to make a love connection or exchange phone numbers to achieve success (of course, if you do, that works, too!). All you need to do is get comfortable talking to strangers so that when someone really amazing comes along, you're able to confidently converse and eventually charm him or her with your sexiest self.

Tip #4: Channel your inner sex kitten (or jungle cat)Just as embodying confidence and learning to talk to strangers are essential factors in rocking your love life, so is learning to celebrate your sultry side. By wearing clothes that make you feel good about yourself, mastering the art of flirtation, and knowing how to make a memorable entrance in any room, you'll have like-minded individuals lining up to talk to you. And no, just because you celebrate your sexy self does NOT mean you're advertising promiscuity. Rather, you're embracing a key part of who you are, perfecting the art of attraction, and showing other people that you find yourself desirable. In turn, others will be more drawn to you. It's then up to you to decide whom you want to get to know better. Love that!

Tip #5: Make bold choicesNow that you're ready to rock your social life in 2009, it's time to start making bigger, bolder choices. And not just in your dating life. What else could you do to make yourself feel super sexy in the coming year? Pursue that promotion? Purchase your dream home? Take that scenic tour of Europe you've been dreaming about for a decade? By making big, bold life choices in the coming year, you show the world around you that you trust yourself and are unafraid to take risks, and, as a result, you reap rockin' rewards. Rewards like the corner office, a condo with a view of downtown, and possibly even the partner of your dreams. How sexy is that?! (The answer is "very!")

By incorporating the five tips mentioned above into your everyday existence, you greatly increase your chances of becoming your sexiest self in 2009. Even if you just put one tip into practice every month for the next five months, the results are sure to rock your world. So go ahead, have fun, push your comfort zone, and don't forget to live B-I-G in 2009. Good luck and happy dating!