My Coaching Call with Ducky

Hello!

I wanted to tell you all some things that are going on! Last night I had the privilege of having a conference call with Ducky, (Ducky Doolittle aka DeDe Prince) I am adding a link to her pod cast on the side of my blog. Please check her out.

Ducky has become like one of my biggest role models. She is a woman that has survived a lot of crap in her life and still keeps her head up, has confidence in her self and works daily to help all types of people in all walks of life. She is not only a sex educator but also works on the front line to help victims of rape to make sure they have a voice. She supports many groups and has passion in all the things she does. She really wants to be the voice for the people that are going through what she went through that don’t have a voice, or do not know they can have a voice. Her life may have had A LOT of bumps and turns but she has taken all that and turned it into a way to help others. She opens her self up to the world not to create a Pitty me but to say Fuck you bad shit! I am a survivor and I am going to show others how to tell you to fuck off!
Talking to Ducky is amazing she really helps you to understand your self and she never judges you. She has a way of listening to your words and you as a person instead of just hearing you. Lol and if anyone messes with her I will kick their butts!

I want to talk to you all about some of the stuff we spoke about. The great thing about doing FYP is I get to learn a lot of great things that I get to share with others. I love doing the parties. Yes the retail sales are a form of income but the best part is knowing that I can help some one learn about them selves or their lover. I am not just a toy sales lady I am Sex Educator. Every day I find ways to educate myself more so that my customers can ask and confided in me. If I do not have the answer I will use the amazing network connected with FYP to find the answers!
Ok I went off on a tangent again! Let me tell you about my coaching call!
We went over four major points 1. Confidence 2.Sales vs. Education 3.Surviving and coping with rape and 4. Pain during sex (an issue someone brought to my attention that I needed help addressing)

Confidence –I tend to try to be upbeat and able to do presentations but some times my confidence is low when I am with a group I don’t know or when I am giving information that has words that I tend to butcher. Ducky helped me to understand that being nervous is normal and confidence grows with each word you say. She gave me tips on how to say the words I butcher and also ways to find the right vocabulary for me. That the best way to be confidant in front of people is to be true to who you are and be sincere!

Sales Vs. Education- I really do not want to be someone that just is like here buy this vibe it feels good. I want to learn how to educate people on why it feels good and how to find confidence and pleasure with them selves and each other. I want to truly be an Educator first that does sales on the side =] Ducky told me how what I do now is getting me closer to that. That myself and the other FYP girls are truly Grass roots sex Educators. We are going to homes and places and sharing information that people my not necessarily know how to attain. Every party I do helps me grow as a sex Educator because every party I learn about more people and that they have experienced. Being a sex educator is also about being a friend.

Surviving rape- Rape is a horrible thing to have to deal with. Because it stays with a person and affects their life in many ways every day after the act is done. I Personally I am a rape survivor. With my rape I though I had protected my self by being in a public area and I was wrong. A man raped me as people walked past and know No one stopped it, people saw the act but did not see the crime. My rape happened over 8 years ago but it has changed a lot in my day-to-day life. I went through stages as we all do that were part of my grieving. I did not have someone like Ducky fighting for my rights as a victim. I was in a different country with people telling me it was not in my best interest to press charges and if I did I would lose. I know now why they pushed me that way and it was not because they wanted to “spare me a trial” they did not want the bad publicity and the ramifications of an American teen being rapped in a bar in front of people and no one stopping it. Now I can use that negative experience to help others and prove to my self that I am a survivor! A lot of the things I thought were weird reactions that I had to my rape Ducky explained were normal and why they were normal.

Pain during sex- someone had told me about an issue they were having that I did not know how to help with. They could not have sex because it has become painful and her body will not allow penetration. After talking to Ducky and the person that is having the pain we have found a way she can work on getting her back to her old self were if she wanted to have sex she could pain free. What is happening in her case is after having surgery that was very traumatizing to her body her body has started to have like a PTSD. They body shuts down because of the pain it had endured at another time. With the help of Ducky I am going to help this person learn to find peace with her body again and be able to allow her self to feel pleasure instead of pain.
Sorry for this being so long but it all is sooooo important that I had to share. Feel free to email me or contact me!