Sex Drive

Well I have been talking to a lot of people and reading articles about all types of issues. On thing that came to light for me that surprised me I HAVE to share!

Did you know that American men actually in general have lower sex drives? It is not talked about as much. It is one of our kept secrets.

It amazes me how stereotypes can actually be proven to be 100% wrong. People always believe that if a couple is not having sex it is because of the women. A lot of women have an equal or higher sex drive then men. They just are not as vocal about it due to society labeling women who have a sexual appetite negatively. So ladies if you fall in this category please do not be afraid that you are a freak, cause you may feel like a minority but there are A LOT of women that feel they same way you do!

I want to go over some tips for anyone who has a higher drive then their partner!!

First please remember that a rejection to sexual activity is NOT a rejection to you! A lot of things can affect a person’s sex drive. I know that when my sexual advances have been met with rejection I always felt like “What’s wrong with me?” Honestly we all need to stop blaming our selves!

The largest killer of sex drive is STRESS! When a person is focusing on a lot of different things it makes it hard to loosen up enough to be into sex. Sex is not just a physical act it is very much mental and emotional. Even in NSA (no strings attached) relationships or encounters. For one or both people to truly enjoy the experiences they have to have their head in it!

Remember that if something doesn’t work do not keep doing it. If you keep wearing out fits and it is not getting a reaction don’t keep trying the same thing. Sometimes if you back off and let your partner come to you it will help. Also do not be as eager. Maybe reject them once in a while (not in a negative way) that way they have to pursue you. Sometimes that kicks the drive in motion.

Look at what has changed. Did something change around when your partner’s drive did? Did you use to write each other note, was it more spontaneous and now you plan it? Try to do the things that changed and see if it helps. If you now do not have a lot of spontaneous time then plan some (I know oxy moron). You can plan on someone taking the kids out of the blue (or at least out of the blue to your partner).

Remember to be intimate not just sexual. The two are NOT interchangeable! Maybe that will be my next post!! Learning to reach intimacy with out intercourse!

You can send me questions or topics any time! Remember I am available to do home parties for Co-Eds, Couples, Ladies, and I welcome all life styles and prefrances.

I am going to have are Coffee talk at my home in Poughkeepsie if you want an invite send me your address!! I will be answering questions about being an IBA and about FYP in genral come join me!!