Bi-Sexuality and Double standards!

Lets Talk about Bi-Sexuality!

This is a topic that is very interesting to me. It seems that in general women being bisexual is expected and the idea of a bisexual man is not as accepted. I want to talk a little to you about Bisexuality and the double standard connected to it.

Lets start by talking about Bisexuality and Bi-Curiosity in general. Even thought these terms are very close they can have total different meanings.

A person who is Bi-Curious is sexually curious about being with a person of either sex or just having an attraction to them. When a person is Bi-curious it does not mean that they would want a relationship with a person of either gender it is just a curiosity.

Bisexual’s are sexually attracted to both sexes, may or may not have interest in a relationship with either gender, and has acted on or fully embraces their attraction to each gender. Being Bi for many is more acceptable then being Gay/Lesbian.

Now let me talk about the double standard connected to Bi-sexuality. Women are encouraged to explore being Bi. It is almost expect for a women to in one point in her life to have thought of… or have acted on being with another women. Many men have fantasies of their female lover being with another women. Some men do feel that if a woman is with another girl it is not cheating but if she is with a man it is. Women are even encouraged in many public bars by the other patrons to kiss or fondle another female. Even places such as strip clubs feed into this double standard as they allow women to enter female strip clubs for free but charge the men. (Men are not allowed to enter male strip clubs/events for free)

The true cannot be said for a man. In many cases if a man shows attraction to men even if he is attracted to women also he is labeled Gay (normally not in such a nice term) Society is very hard on a man who are attracted to both genders. Bisexuality in men is many times hidden or not acted on and kept solely as a curiosity. The saddest part is that many men could truly enjoy their experience with another man but will not allow them selves that freedom to explore. Where as a FMF encounter is accepted and encouraged MMF are not received the same way, especially if there is M-to-M play.

To me this double standard is Heart Breaking! I personally feel that you cannot choose who you are attracted to it comes naturally. Society is unfair when it comes to many topics related to sex and this is just one of the hypercritical double standards. Sexuality is an important part of who each of us are and should not have to be hidden or changed based on the views of an outspoken majority. Everyone should have the freedom to explore their own sexuality however they feel fit with out fear or labels or retaliation.

Please feel free to leave comments or shoot me an email about this topic. I do think I will be doing a couple entries on other Double standards in relationship to sex. Please again feel free to send me anything you want me to address or add into a post!

Here are some opions I have recieved:

E-"This is one of my biggest pet peeves of the Sex industry. I have acutualy made an argument with my ex that if we watched adult movies with girl/girl are got to watch them with guy/guy"